Monthly Archives: February 2009

Thankful Thursday

Today I’m thankful for:

  1. Last second protection from what could have been a really bad wreck on Tuesday.
  2. The opportunity to teach the boys, without consequence,  the reason for sitting properly in a car with the seatbelt on.
  3. A more organized and productive week.
  4. A daughter and son, who saved me from an asthmatic disaster, by cleaning out the back storage building this week.
  5. The month of March starting on a Sunday.  We have a personalized school calendar where at the beginning of each month the numbers must be moved to create the new month’s calendar.  Since February started on a Sunday, and March starts on a Sunday, all I had to do was add the 29th, 30th, and 31st!  (I know, small to you, but huge to me since I loathe unsticking and resticking all the numbers each month! lol)
  6. Whatever Wednesday — It was really fun last night!
  7.  Blackberry Pomegranate yogurt 🙂
  8. My son’s seizure-free illness this week.
  9. Public libraries.
  10. A freshly mowed yard.
  11. A moment of watching a daughter and both sons jumping on the trampoline WITH the dog!
  12. The duct tape that is holding my daughter’s Infinity together….we might be a red-neck, lol!
  13. A hard working husband who gives to our family beyond all expectation.
  14. Beautiful, sunny and warm weather.
  15. Coupons.
  16. A free field trip to the Ft. Worth Stockyards.
  17. Sight.
  18. The internet.
  19. Watching the boys really get into playing with some of their old toys.
  20. Jesus Christ, who really belongs at the top of this list!

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Whatever Wednesday

No one played last week, so I’m gonna keep the same starting question.  Tell your friends to come and play with us each week!

Here’s the way it works:  I start by asking a random question.  The next person answers my question, and then posts another question.  Then, it just keeps going and going.  It’s really neat to see how the questions evolve during the day.  At the end of the day, the last question will be carried forward to the next week’s “Whatever Wednesday”. 

Play as many times throughout the day as you can!  And…as you guessed, you can ask about “Whatever” you want!

Hopefully that all makes sense!  Here goes….

Question #1:  What is the greatest piece of advice anyone has ever given you?

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Trivia Tuesday

Today’s Question:

“What was the name of the Ingall’s two dogs on “Little House on the Prairie”?

 

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Life’s Work – Is it Working? (Part One)

We have just completed a 12-week study series at church on the family.  Priorities, Discipline, Time Together, Memories, Family Traditions, Family Devotional, Family Vacations, Family Relationships, The Church Family, Worshipping Together, Commitment, and Lasting Values were all topics studied and discussed during this time. 

It. never. fails. Each time we spend time studying one thing, it’s THAT thing that the enemy tries to use against us!  It is has been a ROLLERCOASTER during this family study series at our house!

I believe we have been greatly challenged in each one of these areas during the last twelve weeks.  It has been PAINFULLY REHABILITATING, but isn’t that how God works sometimes?

Just as I enter a whole new phase of life, when two of my four children are now grown,  my thoughts begin to try and find rest that we have done what we could to raise our daughters in a manner pleasing to God.  Teaching them the ways of God, practicing, although not to perfection, the ways of godly parents and giving them the skills, abilities, and opportunities for a successful future. 

We’ve poured ourselves into their lives, disciplining when it was necessary, teaching when they were teachable, loving purposefully and intentionally, equipping them to care for themselves, and offering continuing support and guidance for as long as they want it.

Still, there were good intentions that are unfulfilled. 

Thinking back, I could list many of our failures and shortcomings in the parenting field.  The list would probably be a mile long and then some.   Still, we have tried to make the right decisions and follow what God would want for our family.

Now, as a mother of two grown children, I sit and wonder, “Was it enough?”

Was it enough to wish for them happiness, yet find out that they will experience many heartaches?

Was it enough to point them to the scriptures to handle those difficult times?

Will they really practice what we have taught them for so many years?

Did we model what we were teaching to them enough, so that they will naturally look to God throughout their adult life?

“Do they truly GET IT, God?  When will Your love and protection and guidance be THE thing they MOST crave and look for?  Do I rest on parenting from the past, believing that when they are “old” they will not depart from it?  Or do I continue to admonish and point and guide them toward You still?  If they are adults now, when do I “let go”, as many in the world would say?  How can I cut strings with them when I love them so greatly?”

Sooooooooo many questions!  Whew!  I get teary eyed just articulating my heart right now!

This. Is. A. Tough. Time.

No longer can I force them to say “I’m Sorry” when they hurt each other’s feelings.  No longer can I use chore charts and stickers to teach them the value of responsibility.  No longer can I ground them to their room, or take away their favorite toy. 

Is my job as a mother done?  Is my life’s work over with them?  Are they fruitful, godly daughters striving to build their new life in a way pleasing to Him?

There is just so much to consider.

One thing I have learned for sure is stated on Buddy’s blog,

“The more I learn, the less I know.”

The things I would have bet the girls would be doing or not doing, is many times opposite of my thoughts.  Life lessons I thought were most important at their young age, now seem different in our new perspective.

…and my perspective is changing DAILY.  Little things that may not mean much to them, or even to my husband for that matter, send me into a tailspin of concern.  On the grander scale, some of these things may not be life altering, but to me at this moment in time, panic begins to rise when I think things aren’t right.

It just “should be” the way I envisioned it! (lol):  Grown children, who consider the family as the strongest bond, second to God, who compares to no other; love, forgiveness, productivity and empathy reigning in our household at all times due to the bond of a mature family; collective ministry to others through our family, sharing in like-mindedness and common interests; fun and happiness in abundance; the peace of knowing that our parenting job is completed well.

But then, evaluating all these things remains a matter of perspective.

God didn’t expect families to be perfect.  All our great intentions and dreams and desires as parents were many times missed opportunities.  Children don’t always love and respect the way God intended, either. 

Still…the family is the most important basic social unit God created. 

Within the family, we learn to model the ways of the world or the ways of God.  Every day, our actions as parents, whether purposeful or not, extend to the growth and development of our children. 

When they are grown, we look back and realize how many times we did things WRONG, and no matter how many times we try to convince ourselves otherwise, there’s still the question, “Did I do enough?”

Over the next few posts, I intend to articulate some thoughts on parenting.  Some will be based on our personal experiences.  Some will be based on other new and old concepts/ideas surfacing within the Christian realm.

Prayerfully, God will guide these posts and the discussions from it to strengthen us all in our parenting endeavors, …

…because no longer can I say “Two Down, two to go”.  What I believe I am learning is that my job is still not done.

 

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Not Me! Monday

 

Welcome to “Toby’s Toasted Bananas” — the blog that’s kinda like the scene from “Forrest Gump”….you never know what name you’re gonna get!  

In the spirit of “Not”, I’m struggling to come up with something relatively interesting to post.

I was pretty normal this week.  (No comments about that, ok?! lol) 

Not much crazy stuff to confess, I’m afraid.  

Hmmm…..Let’s talk about the economy!  …….NOT!

For one day, wouldn’t it be a nice news report to hear “The stock market is back up, gas is down, we’re all gonna’ be able to afford dinner this week, and you’re not gonna’ have to ration squares of toilet paper after all!”

I mean, have you ever bought 2-ply only to feel like you have to make it 1-ply so it will last longer?! lol

We were gonna plant a garden this weekend, but the tiller isn’t working.  It’s probably not worth fixing either, so I guess we’ll just go without 😦  

I tried to think of a way to convince the husband to use the old plow we found when we moved here, but figured he’d “NOT” that idea right away!

The youngest is sick again.  We’re carefully watching him for potential seizure signs, trying to keep him rested and eating/drinking well.  So far, so good.  –May just be allergies due to yard work yesterday.

Not much else to talk about today.  What things did you NOT do this week?

 

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He is Glorious!

When you need a reminder that God still cares…

When you need to remember all that He has done for you…

When you find yourself wondering just who’s in control of this crazy world…

Watch this: 

“For every house is built by someone, but He who built all things is God.”  Hebrews 3:4

“You, Lord, in the beginning laid the foundation of the earth, And the heavens are the work of Your hands.  They will perish, but You remain; And they will all grow old like a garment; Like a cloak You will fold them up, And they will be changed.  But You are the same, and Your years will not fail.”  Hebrews 1:10-12

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Thankful Thursday

For the large AND the small, today I am thankful for:

  1. A husband who loves me despite me.
  2. God, who sustains & reminds me that “it’s all worth it”.
  3. Continual “I love you Mommy”s from my youngest son.
  4. The meatloaf my daughter made this week, her first “real” meal!
  5. The same daughter’s willingness to babysit while I took a girl’s day out with some friends.
  6. Olive Garden bread sticks 😉
  7. Recent “I love you’s” from the eldest daughter.
  8. The ability to homeschool away from home.
  9. My husband’s job and financial provision.
  10. Friends who come to my rescue in chaotic times.
  11. A few days of peace and quiet.
  12. The opportunity for the boys to play outside.
  13. A godly boyfriend for my daughter, and how he really takes good care of her.
  14. Today’s divine and unexplained contact with a long lost sister.
  15. Renewed contact and lunch with my grandmother.
  16. Boys who adore their great-grandmother, despite only seeing her approximately 10-15 times in their whole life.
  17. Hope for renewal in our extended family relationships. 
  18. A tax refund, instead of a tax payment.
  19. Warm and snuggly hugs from my eldest son.
  20. Knowing that spring is just around the corner. 

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